Aren't we all just searching for how we can be a better version of ourselves? Have you ever asked yourself, "What does the best version of me look like?" Think about it. Your ideal self. What does it include? Maybe make a list of ideas you're having right now to reflect on.
In my job, amongst my friends, watching tv, at a family reunion, in my Barre class, just a short time ago I was constantly looking outside myself, comparing myself to those around me, those I'm watching, observing, maybe even studying others I admire qualities in. How do they have it all together? How are they such an amazing person? How are they so high achieving, fit, beautiful, rich, funny? I found I was becoming less happy, and less secure with myself the more I did social comparison and it's easy to do, we all do it.
But rather than searching outside myself for the answers, I realized they were inside myself. It's called strength finding. I needed to tap into my strengths and play to them to be a better version of myself. It's authentic, real, and not something I can attain by studying anyone else or how they live their life. Those strengths are the recipe to me performing my best, being a better wife, friend, coworker, and even fitness buddy to those around me.
When I'm truly playing within my strengths I feel energized and can tune out the world around me. I feel at my best like nothing can touch me. My enthusiasm is contagious and people want a piece of whatever pie I'm eating. There are a few great ways you can do this for yourself and others around you too.
- Take an online strengths survey to identify your strengths
- Identify areas of your job that play to your strengths and capitalize on it
- Take a friend or significant other on a strengths based date
- Help others around you strength find by complimenting them on their strengths